Therapy- Is it right for you?
A decision to enter therapy is life-affirming, but facing our inner challenges takes courage and commitment. Like climbing a mountain, we have to find the right path for us; decide to go alone or in a group, with a lot of help or not much. Although we cannot know the outcome for any person of taking the adventure to develop themselves, we do know what staying put will look and feel like. And for some people, that is the right thing to do.
For those who opt for self-development, the benefits of investing in self-knowledge and conscious change typically outweigh the discomforts and uncertainties that come with taking any journey into the unknown.
To sort out what matters; to clear or change what no longer serves is not a quick process, and it is not a cheap option. Yet, we have only one life that we are fully aware of, and it is important to make it the most fulfilling and purposeful that it can be.
In essence, the aim of therapy is to become free of long-term misery. To achieve this, it is likely that you will experience short-term pain. Starting therapy can feel disruptive to our lives and our inner sense of ourselves. It can bring up thoughts and feelings that are confusing, and even frightening. This is a normal part of the process as we begin to assess what serves us and what doesn’t.
As general guidance, it is advisable not to make radical changes to your life, unless necessary, until you feel settled into therapy. Also, it is important to bring to therapy whatever ideas you may have for change in your life, so we can examine them carefully to see how best they might serve you.
None of the above is designed to frighten you, but to point out that ‘a change of course is a course of change’, so keeping yourself healthy, supported in your life, and prepared for some pain and change will serve you well on your journey.
The ultimate aim is to move you towards a life that is lived more freely, consciously, and joyfully.
Therapy for children
The sooner you know yourself, the sooner you can succeed.
Nowadays, thanks to schools and better information, children have stronger emotional vocabulary. They can describe their feelings and explain their own behaviour and that of others. But, although they can name these feelings, they are not easily able to change the high levels of anxiety and depression they are experiencing. This is partly because there is also a lot more pressure on children at a younger age- pressure to conform, to outgrow interests early, and to make crucial decisions at young ages. Until you have a strong sense of who you are and what you want, it is difficult to navigate these pressures with confidence.
A space in which to discover yourself, free from those pressures, is a gift for life. Once you know your resources, talents and preferences, you are set for life because they will always be the best guiding principles for you. As Oscar Wilde said “Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken!”.
For children then, the aim of therapy is to:
- help them develop ways to cope with their struggles;
- help them develop a language to describe their inner world that will serve them through the years ahead
- nurture their talents for creativity, resilience, and optimism.
Cost: £60 per hour session. £30 concessionary rate.
60 minute session
To use the concessionary rate, please arrange with me.