Ceremonies and rituals can be an incredibly powerful way for families (and individuals) to integrate life’s events and challenges – both difficult and joyful – and for everyone to move on, feeling more empowered and at peace.
I can work with you to plan and facilitate ceremonies to help resolve and integrate almost any event or life stage. Contact me to find out more.
We may not always recognise it, but I feel that we instinctively know that the events of our lives are sacred and important.
The spiritual is in the everyday; events such as birth, death, the transition from childhood to adolescence and adulthood – even moving home – are no less extraordinary and significant just because they are commonplace.
Indigenous people all over the world mark life’s endings and transitions with ceremonies and rituals that help them celebrate and make sense of life events that can be enormously emotionally complex.
But we in the West don’t always fully honour the events of our lives and the stages of our life journey they represent. And even when we do, the ceremonies available to us (e.g. funerals) may not provide the closure or integration we need. We may feel stuck, incomplete in some way, or just unable to move on.
Ceremonies for death and grief
Perhaps a death or funeral has left you feeling incomplete or dissatisfied. There can be many reasons for this, such as:
- The death was sudden and unexpected
- The focus was on the manner of death (e.g. suicide) rather than on your loved one’s life
- The burial happened in another country
- You were unable to go to the funeral
- You have difficult unresolved feelings about the person who has died and feel guilty about not being sad
- The funeral service did not reflect the person’s life and values, or it did not feel meaningful to you
I can help you (with or without other family members) plan and create your own ceremony that reflects your true feelings and wishes and helps you integrate and honour your feelings, whatever those may be.
This can be a powerful release and open you to greater connection to yourself and your life. Creating an appropriate and meaningful ceremony or ritual can:
- Open the way for you to begin to move on in a way that feels authentic and empowering.
- Create something more meaningful that more fully honours the person’s life.
- Allow those in grief to feel they have laid the person properly to rest and to integrate the gifts of the loved one into the family’s life.
Cost: £150 – preparation and ceremony.
Ceremonies for endings in our lives
I believe that in order to grow from experience, we need to complete the cycle of energy flow.
When a relationship comes to an end, a career finishes or we move home, we need to honour the gifts and lessons this brings, however painful that might be.
When we know what we have received, understand why we received it, and the reasons it needs to go, then we are free to move on. I often include this type of ceremony as part of ongoing therapy, but it can stand alone too as a powerful piece of energetic and emotional work.
By releasing the energy in ceremony, we gift the energy to the universe to be transformed, and we begin to move on.
For ceremonies for endings, I meet with you (alone or with any other people or family members who wish to take part) on at least one occasion to plan the ceremony and then once more to assist with the ceremony itself. Usually about 2-4 hours of work is required over two sessions.
A family is understood as any number or combination of adults and children, plus pets.
Cost: £150- preparation and ceremony.
Ceremonies for managing transitions
Growing up, leaving home, ambiguous loss such as redundancy, illness, divorce; all of these can have a profound effect on us, both individually and as families.
I provide a safe space for you to explore the impact of events and experiences and to gain greater understanding of how the process is impacting you. I also help you to find practical ways of integrating the events into your life and moving forward. I hold a primary certificate in developmental and transitions coaching.
We can work together to come up with rites of passage or other ceremonies to mark these important transitions and explore more deeply what they mean for you and your life.
Cost: £150 preparation and ceremony.
£60 per hour as part of a set of focused sessions to guide you through transition.
Ceremonies for death, endings, and transitions.
60 minute session in person, by telephone or online.